Forcing anyone to engage in sexual activity is sinful and can be viewed as rape, no one should feel compelled to be intimate with anyone. If someone tricks, threatens or manipulates causing the person into sexual activity, these traits are not one which stems from love. Many Muslim women say the religion of Islam has “empowered women” and has “given them rights.” If we explore the Qur’ān will we find this to be true? There’s only one way to find out, let’s take a deep dive as Yasir Qadhi would say.

Here’s the definition of sexual coercion defined by OASH (Office on Women’s Health):

Sexual coercion is unwanted sexual activity that happens when you are pressured, tricked, threatened, or forced in a nonphysical way. Coercion can make you think you owe sex to someone. It might be from someone who has power over you, like a teacher, landlord, or a boss. No person is ever required to have sex with someone else.

OASH (Sexual coercion)

Women, Are A Field To Be Tilled?

In Surah al-baqarah (The Cow) also known as the Hindu chapter, the longest in the Qur’ān with 286 ayats. In ayat 223 reads that a man can go into his wife as he pleases as he would till a field.

Other renderings of the same verse by their Muslim scholars.

[Sahih International:] Your wives are a place of sowing of seed for you, so come to your place of cultivation however you wish and put forth [righteousness] for yourselves. And fear Allah and know that you will meet Him. And give good tidings to the believers.

^{Surah al-baqarah (The Cow)}

[Muhammad Sarwar:] Your wives are as fields for you. You may enter your fields from any place you want. Reserve something good for your souls (for the life hereafter). Have fear of God and know that you are going to meet Him. (Muhammad) give the glad news to the believers.

^{Surah al-baqarah (The Cow)}

In Islam men can abuse women in whatever way he pleases according to the Qur’ān, to substantiate this fact we go to the scholars and the Tafsir for the interpretation. Let’s see if you’ve ever read a more unloving and deplorable description of what Islam teaches. I apologise in advance for what you’ll read but if we’re to be truthful as Christians we must expose darkness with light. Continue at your own risk!

Islam is really a sex cult, why the graphic detail and the teachings of abusing women? In contrast to the Qur’ān we read in the Bible men are to love their wives as Christ loved us.

Other verses teaching husbands to love thier wifes are (Eph 5:28-29, 33, Col 3:19). Women should be treated with gentleness, kindness and love, they’re to be cherished and protected not abused as sexual objects.

Angels Will Curse Her For Not Having Sex?

This Hadith which is the saying of Muhammad (Sunnah) uses threats towards women to scare them into having sex.^[1] Why in the world would angels care about the sexual relationship of a husband and wife to the point of cursing the woman? This was how Muhammad manipulated religion so men could have their way with women, below is the Sahih (Authentic) Hadith in question.

Muslim women do not have the right to deny their husband sex, otherwise, the angels according to this Hadith will curse her all night until morning. It’s things like this in Islam which causes women to feel trapped, this is not love but lust! Women are completely degraded by the false prophet Muhammad, why there are women caught up in this chauvinistic^[2] man made religion?

They’re afraid to leave for fear of being ostracised by their families, friends and community. A quick search will bring up plenty of stories of women who have doubts and are trying to escape from Islam. One Muslima wrote an article asking questions, she prefaced the piece by saying her faith is “strong” and that “islamophobes will extrapolate what could be considered useful for their agenda.” Instead of being real and saying she doesn’t like certain things Islam teaches, this is the brainwashing effect Islam has on women.

Questions she asked were:

(1) “Why can a man marry a non-Muslim, or rather why can’t women too?…Why does the divine command not extend to women?” (2) “Why can’t I divorce my husband? … Why do I not have the same authority as a man in my relationship when it comes to authorising a divorce?” (3) “Why do women only get half the inheritance?” (4) “Traveling by myself as a Muslim woman” (5) “Why can I not beautify myself…for myself?” (6) “Why can’t I pray and fast during my period? … the wide-reaching repercussions of being exempt from certain times of worship, for example, hajj, umrah, and not attending virtuous nights in the mosque, leads me to can’t help but feel I am being denied by Allah” (7) “Why I can’t attend a burial?” (8) “Why is a women’s testimony not enough on her own?” (9) “Why are the only Prophets mentioned men?” (10) “Why can’t I lead prayer?” (11) “Why do I have to cover my hair while men are not obliged?” (12) “Hoor Al-Ayn – Need I say more? … I feel objectified as a woman, that we, of all species, are objects for the pleasure of men. ”

12 Things I Can’t Reconcile About Islam as a Muslim Woman (amaliah.com)

Does this sound like a religion that values women or degrades them, treating them as sex objects, even saying they’re less intelligent than men?! There are cases of Muslim women who want to get out of abusive relationships but are not allowed to, they are being denied and controlled by their Imams.^[3]

Let’s answer some of these questions above for her using her own Islamic sources.

Why Can A Man Marry A Non-Muslim, Or Rather Why Can’t Women Too?

According to Islam, only Muslim men can marry outside of Islam, more specifically they’re allowed to marry Jewish or Christian women. But it’s not allowed for them to marry Hindu’s or Buddhist. Muslim women are not permitted under any circumstance to marry any non-Muslim. The teaching in Islam is that men are allowed to marry women who are Jewish or Christian due to this verse in Surah al-Maidah 5:5.

Surah al-māidah gives Muslim men permission to marry non-Muslim women, but there’s a contradiction because Muslims claim that Christians are mushriks meaning they call us idol-worshippers because we worship the Lord Jesus Christ. This exposes the hypocrisy of Islam in Surah al-Baqarah 2:221 they’re prohibited from marrying idol-worshippers.

All Christian women worship Jesus Christ, and Muslims claim that’s idolatry yet Surah al-maidah contradicts this verse saying men can marry Christian women. On Islam Q&A someone asked “What is the difference between mushrikeen and kuffaar? Are the Jews and Christians mushrikeen or kuffaar?” here’s their answer:

The kaafir is the one who denies and conceals the truth. The basic meaning of the word kufr in Arabic is concealment. Shirk means devoting worship to anyone or anything other than Allaah. Kufr may take the form of denying and rejecting, but the mushrik may also believe in Allaah. This is the difference between the mushrik and the kaafir. Each word may also carry the meaning of the other, so the word kufr may be used in the sense of shirk, and the word shirk may be used in the sense of kufr. Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Kufr and shirk may carry the same meaning, which is disbelief in Allaah, may He be exalted, or they may be used separately, whereby shirk refers to the worship of idols and other created beings, whilst also acknowledging Allaah, as the kuffaar of Quraysh did, and kufr may have a more general meaning than shirk. End quote.

The difference between the mushrikeen and the kuffaar, and to which category do the Jews and Christians belong?

So how can these men marry women who are considered an idolatress (mushrik) and is accused of committing the unforgivable sin shirk? Then when it comes to women Islam Q&A said: “It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man from any other religion, whether from among the Jews or Christians, or any other kafir religion. It is not permissible for her to marry a Jew, a Christian, a Magian, a communist, an idol-worshipper, etc.” this is found in the same verse 2:221.

Why Can’t I Divorce My Husband?

The Bible gives 2 allowances for divorce, but for Christians, divorce is the absolute last resort as the God of the Bible (Yahweh) hates divorce. If a spouse commits adultery or is abusive to their spouse divorce is possible. But look at what Islam teaches if a woman wants to divorce, this following quote is from Islam Q&A.

A woman does not have the power to divorce (talaaq) her husband; rather divorce is in the hand of the man, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “(The right of divorce) belongs to the one who takes hold of the calf [i.e., her husband].” Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah

Can she ask for a divorce if her husband takes a second wife?

In addition, the man can have multiple wives, up to 4 at a time, but the wife cannot have multiple husbands and she cannot divorce. This is just all around wrong how is it Islam gives women more rights?

Islam puts the blame on the woman and never the man it seems, here’s another quote from an article on the website Al-Islam. Ayatullah Ibrahim Amini try to detect where he seems to be putting the blame should a husband divorce his wife.

One influential factor for divorce is the disheartenment of a husband for his legitimate wife and his fondness and affection towards non-mahram women. The chief instrument for this is lack of adequate Hijab among women and leering in men. When a man looks upon a woman who is more beautiful and attractive than his own wife he may become infatuated with her and become disheartened with his wife. Little by little he makes familial life bitter by finding faults, seeking excuses, and picking quarrels, which might ultimately lead to divorce.

Divorce in Islam

Here a perfect example of abuse in Islamic marriages, a woman who was married to a man who was beating her left bruises on her. She went to Aisha for help in which they came before Muhammad asking for help. Aisha complained saying the lady’s skin was green from all the beatings she received. The lady told Muhammad that her husband `AbdurRahman was not able to perform in bed, `AbdurRahman accused her of lying. Muhammad then tells the woman if she wants to leave `AbdurRahman and go back to her previous husband Rifa`a she must let `AbdurRahman have sex with her. Another Hadith says that she must let him taste her juices. The pimp prophet Muhammad is advocating for wife swapping, how can this be a messenger of God?!

Why Is A Women’s Testimony Not Enough On Her Own?

Islam teaches women are not intelligent enough to testify on their own, this is the reason another woman is needed to make up for her deficiency (stupidity). Women are stupid according to Islam, we challenge any Muslim to point to any text in the Bible which says anything remotely close to this. You won’t find anything in our scriptures which degrades women.

Conclusion

It’s fair to say after going through the Qur’ān and Hadith that women in Islam are not valued. In the Bible women are equal to men, husbands are encouraged to love their wives. In fact in the book of Proverbs chapter 31:10-12 states that a virtuous woman has more worth far above rubies. Christians certainly do not believe women are less than men, we believe women are equal to men the only difference is that men and women have different roles.

Women are just as intelligent than men, and her testimony is good on her own. Christian women are not cursed by angels for not being in the mood to be sexually intimate with their husband, lastly they are not sex objects to be used and abused. If you’re a Muslim woman know that in Islam you’re looked down upon for be created as a woman. How is it Allah is against women yet he supposedly created you? That makes no sense!

In the Bible both male and female have been created in the image of God, therefore, you have immense value. I would implore you to come to Jesus Christ for salvation and start living a meaningful life for the true God who loves you and gave Himself on the cross for you for you to have salvation.

Footnotes

[1] Anyone, including friends, co-workers, bosses, landlords, dates, partners, family members, and strangers, can use coercion. Sexual coercion is most likely to happen with someone you already have some type of relationship with. Sexual activity should always happen with your consent. If you are being pressured or coerced into sexual activity, that may be a type of sexual assault and it may be against the law. Office on Women’s Health (2021, February 15). Sexual coercion. Retrieved from https://www.womenshealth.gov/relationships-and-safety/other-types/sexual-coercion

[2] Definition of chauvinism: an attitude of superiority toward members of the opposite sex male chauvinism also: behavior expressive of such an attitude “Chauvinism.” Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, Merriam-Webster, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/chauvinism. Accessed 4 Nov. 2022.

[3] ‘I’m not his property’: Abused Muslim women denied right to divorce abc.net.au (2018, April 17). ‘I’m not his property’: Abused Muslim women denied right to divorce. Retrieved from https://www.abc.net.au/news/2018-04-18/abused-muslim-women-denied-right-to-divorce/9632772