What’s True Love?

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We live in a day and age when “love” is touted as “live and let live”, “love is love”. The world would tell us to be alright with sin and even acknowledge it (think pride parades). But the question is is that love, are we to subscribe to man’s definition of love or God’s? 

Recently I was reprimanded by a family member because I told someone “not to use foul language”. A friend of the family was visiting and in their conversation, they felt the need to be loud and cursing to express themselves. Being the only Christian in the family I made mention of this behaviour as wrong and inappropriate. As I made mention of this the individual said “I didn’t curse” which then I replied “you did it’s just that you don’t realise it because you curse so much” I then said “it’s not a normal thing to do” it was at this point when a family member said “it’s normal for us”. 

Matthew 15:17-20 Do not ye yet understand, that whatsoever entereth in at the mouth goeth into the belly, and is cast out into the draught? But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: These are the things which defile a man: but to eat with unwashen hands defileth not a man.

God has given us His word we all have sinned and come short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23) but since the beginning, mankind has rebelled against their Creator, just as the Israelites have rejected God’s voice in the wilderness. The same as when Moses would try to get His brethren to stop fighting among themselves they said to Moses (Exodus 2:14), the Lord Jesus also told us about the ten servants in Luke who were to Occupy till He comes but his citizens hated him saying “We will not have this man to reign over us” (Luke 19:14).

Exodus 20:19-20 And they said unto Moses, Speak thou with us, and we will hear: but let not God speak with us, lest we die. And Moses said unto the people, Fear not: for God is come to prove you, and that his fear may be before your faces, that ye sin not. 

The same is happening today as unsaved people shake their little fist at God saying “We will not have this man to reign over us”. After the same family member and I had a discussion, I was told that I was wrong in saying “explicit obscenity” that I should allow people to live their lives the way they see fit. I asked “is it loving to allow people to continue in sin”, do we now turn a blind eye to sin and pat people on the back in their sin is that love? I explained that if I love them then I must speak the truth about sin, they have to know that they are in grave danger of going to hell because of sin.

The answer I received was shocking to say the least I was told “then let them go to hell!” how horrified I was to hear those words coming from a family member. I then asked “would you place your hand on a burning stove?” the response was obviously “no or course not” at this point I said “hell will be infinitely worse than a hot stove and you said let them go to hell?! this unloving for you to say”. This particular family member besides being unsaved has a fear man issue as most do, the motto is to let people do as they please. This is satanic in its nature the well-known satanist Aleister Crowley said “Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law”. 

This is the problem with mankind people love their sin more than they love God, they won’t come to God because they know they will have to give up their sin and be accountable to the LORD. We pray they bow the knee to God now rather than later as it will be too late then. As Christians, we face an ungodly world people who are on the ledge of falling into a lost eternity, eternally separated from God forever and they will wish then that they could hear the gospel message once more. 

It’s with a grieving heart that I write this I see family members on their way to hell and I wish I could just shake them out of demonic sleep they succumbed too. The bible says that “the whole world lieth in wickedness” that “the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not” (1 John 5:192 Corinthians 4:4). Only God can wake them out of that slumber but as believers, we are commanded to preach the word to every creature (Mark 16:15-16). We are in a war not with flesh but with unseen powers and wickedness in high places, and we must have on the entire armour of God in order for us to do battle (Ephesians 6:10-17). 

We have to reach out to the lost and speak the truth in love, it won’t be easy you will have resistance but we must persevere. In the book of Jude it says: 

Jude 1:22-23 And of some have compassion, making a difference: And others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire; hating even the garment spotted by the flesh. 

We should be willing to lay down our very lives in order to bring them to Christ Jesus. 

John 15:13 Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. 

Let’s continue to reach out to our family and friends with the gospel because it’s the good news, wonderful news of salvation that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners! 

So what the answer to the question posed in the beginning what’s love? God gave us the greatest example of love over 2000 years ago. God the Father loves us so much that He sent His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ, to die on the cross as a sacrifice to pay the penalty for our sins. He was buried and rose the 3rd day conquering death and hell and whosoever places their trust in Jesus Christ for salvation will be saved and have everlasting life. And that my friends is true love (John 3:16)!

WHEN YOU’RE THE ONLY CHRISTIAN IN THE FAMILY

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What should Christians do when they’re not only surrounded by unbelievers but live under the same roof? Perhaps you’ve been raised in a secular home, Jewish, Muslim or another religion. It’s difficult enough stepping outside into an unbelieving world, but what if your own enemies are your family?

The Lord Jesus spoke on these issues many times even His own family didn’t believe Him (John 7:5). As believers out in the world if God opens a door to preach Christ there’s always a possibility of them rejecting the gospel and you can walk away. But it’s not that simple when it’s your family denying the only salvation they have.

RAISED CHRISTIAN

There are brothers and sisters who’ve had the privilege of being reared in a good Christian home, where the Word of God resides and parents (father and mother) live by God’s Word, where Jesus Christ is the centre of the home and its doors are open and welcoming to all. I’ve never had the privilege of being raised in such a home and at times wondered what it’s like?

Other times I thank God that while it’s a wonderful privilege being raised by Christian parents and coming from a history of saved family members, the fact that I grew up in a non-Christian home makes me appreciate the Lord Jesus even more. I’ll explain.

UNDER THE SOUND OF THE GOSPEL

We know that God is sovereign and when He determines to pull someone out of the grips of death and have true love flow forth from that soul He just saved it’s a beautiful thing to behold. True conversion! There are children who are from Christian families who pray at every meal, talk about the Lord, have members of the family that are concerned with their salvation bring them up in the ways of God. And they’ve attended assembly and Sunday school.

That said because God has always been prevalent in their lives they might take the things of God for granted. A bible on the dining room table has always been “normal” for them. Hearing about Jesus Christ dying on the cross for them because they’re sinners is everyday life. And we have unconverted children living among these wonderful truths and maybe believe because they come from such a home are saved. Hence the reason why parents continuously ask their children who is Jesus Christ to them, praying that they get saved one day. How tragic it would be having being raised under the sound of the gospel and never getting saved.

GROWING UP WITHOUT THE GOSPEL

Then there’s the other side those who’ve been raised with other beliefs, who have absolutely no idea what’s the gospel. Either they’ve been raised in a works based religion or worse they’ve been brought up in a secular humanistic world view. I myself fall into that second category.

Walk around and ask someone who’s Jesus Christ and what does He mean to you and you’ll get mixed reactions. They might say “Jesus I love Jesus” and with the same breath will blaspheme His precious name. If Muslim will say “He’s only a profit”. If Atheist will say “there is no God”. Maybe they worship a false Jesus like the JW’s or Mormons. Others will give you a look as if you’re completely nuts or just don’t know who Jesus really is.

The sad thing is this is the majority of people. For the majority of my life I grew up without God on my way to a lost eternity and I thank the Lord every day that He saved a wicked sinner like myself by reaching out and lighting my dark soul. And many who grow up like me never do come to know the Lord and are in hell wishing they did. That’s why it’s so important for Christians to share the gospel anyway they can.

WHEN THE HOUSEHOLD IS AGAINST YOU

The question remains if you’re the only Christian in the family and they’ve resisted the gospel or reject the only salvation in Jesus Christ how do we respond? This is assuming you’ve already presented the gospel to your family. There are a few ways we can still proclaim the gospel, we can give to prayer that God will open a door for you to share the gospel.

Ask God to intervene in our family members lives and put another believer in their path, in the workplace or a stranger walking by. We also have to be aware that unbelievers are always watching us even when we think their not. And if our priorities are right they’ll see fruit in our lives, reading our bibles and living a godly life (1 Peter 3:1). We believe that because our families know us best and have seen a radical change in us that would be enough to make them believers. The bible says that those who know you best are the ones who will be the hardest to reach (Matthew 13:57, Mark 6:4, Luke 4:24).

I’m learning this myself being surrounded by unbelievers who say eat, drink and be merry (1 Corinthians 15:32), this is how the world thinks, they’re looking at the world through secular glasses. They believe in slogans like “just do it ” the “now” generation of secular humanism. Living without any hope beyond the grave and if that’s the view they take then what meaning will they have in life? Eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow we die.

Thank the Lord that He’s faithful and true and pulls us out of a dark lost world and into light. Being that we’re children of light living in a dark world we can expect friction, we are the salt of the earth (Matthew 5:13). When salt gets into a wound it aggravates and stings! This doesn’t mean go around purposefully aggravating people it simply means that by your testimony and presence you’ll have an effect on those who’re in darkness.

Amos 3:3 “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”

PRAYER

We have to keep our families in prayer asking God to soften their hearts to the gospel. Relying on the Father and remaining faithful is key, the Lord knows what’s best and how to approach all situations. We would love to see our loved ones become saved today homeward bound for Heaven but we also have to remember it needs to be according to God’s timing, His timing is always perfect. God bless.

Sacrificial Love

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I once was given a privilege by the Lord Jesus to witness a man of God acting in pure Christlike sacrificial love. And it changed me. This image will forever be seared in my heart.

I was at a Christian evangelism conference and every morning breakfast was provided by the church. It was pancakes. People were lingering around, concerned about getting their breakfast, getting their fill, their satisfaction, their need met.

The speaker mentioned that whatever was in the serving plate, that’s all we had. Everyone still got their fill, not showing any concern for others getting enough. One man piled up his plate with about 10 pancakes oozing with syrup.

Then, I notice something. A man on the other side of the breakfast table, quietly grabbing his pancakes. Except, he grabbed the burnt one at the bottom, taking the least desired pancake while the rest piled up their plates and had their fill.

My eyes couldn’t believe it. I was watching Christ through this man and it was glorious. It was like watching the pages of scripture unfold before me. It was so pure, so holy, so beautiful, so lovely, sacrificial.

Nobody noticed him, nobody appreciated that they were being thought of by him as more important than himself. And he didn’t care if not a single person noticed, because he was doing it for his Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. But I noticed, and it will forever be with me.

God gave me a wonderful gift that day.

This is true Christlike godly Christian love. Sacrifice. Just as Christ sacrificed His life for us, we as His children are to walk in sacrificial love, letting our lives and bodies be a sacrifice unto God. Just as Christ was a servant and washed His disciples feet, are we to be servants and wash each others feet. We are to walk in humility, making others more important than ourselves. That is true godly love.

If I then, your Lord and Master, have washed your feet; ye also ought to wash one another’s feet. For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you.” John‬ ‭13:14-15‬

I am going to marry this man one day. ❤

THE CHRISTIAN HOUSEHOLD

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This past Lord’s day while at assembly I came across a rare but wonderful read, it, unfortunately, came into my hands by the way of a saint who recently went to sleep but will meet the Lord on that day when the trump sounds (1 Thessalonians 4:16).

This small book published and distributed by Tom Westwood is packed with Biblical wisdom on the Christian Household (family). The book dates back (from what I can see) to at least the 1970’s possibly even further.

Table of Contents

  • Four Marks of a Christian Home
  • Christian Etiquette
  • The Family Personality
  • The Husband
  • The Wife
  • The Children
  • The Father
  • The Mother

Mr Westwood speaks about the importance of a Christ centred family, how by reading the holy scriptures we can learn essential Christian family virtues and how to adopt these practices into our homes.

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Topics range from what marks a Christian home and then digs deeper into the family itself husband, wife, children, etiquette etc.

What I enjoyed about this book is that as the thoughts are presented expounded upon the main source and facts are always pointed back to the scriptures so that we can look further into God’s word and derive how we can make sure we are living a life in which the Lord is the focus. Pleasing the Lord in all things pertaining to our families and how we welcome visitors into our dwellings, keeping the Lord’s name a “household name” and keeping Him in our worship.

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I would highly recommend this book to any serious Christian, plenty of knowledge here for the married or single in an easily digestible way.

It’s going to be hard coming across this book. Being that this is a rare book it’s highly unlikely you’ll find it in a Barnes and Noble, maybe try finding it in a rare books store or online.

Thanks for reading Brethren, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit. Amen.

Written by Jason